


Manage Your Stressors

MATs and schools are busy places and many staff face challenges - teaching is one of the three most stressful occupations and support staff often face challenges, including financial ones. It is why there are such recruitment and retention challenges. The information shared on this page will help you and staff in and across your MAT and please do share the page url.
- Understand the difference between pressure and stress
- Identify the main causes of workplace stress and your / their own stressors
- Better manage the key risks of stress and as a result be more effective
This is not a comprehensive or detailed solution for anyone who has mental ill-health or significant challenges from their work or life. If you suspect you or others have mental or physical ill-health then you or they should seek advice or support from a professional practitioner.
Pressure
You will regularly experience pressure at work. This comes from having specific tasks to deliver within a timeframe or having deadlines to meet. It can also be something you put on yourself, through having high expectations or from being a 'perfectionist'.
Excessive workload and overwhelm can also lead to feelings of 'being under pressure' and lead to stress. Pressure can be positive and a motivating factor, and is often essential in helping you to carry out your job, particularly when something needs to be done quickly. It can help you to work at your best, achieve your goals and perform better.
Without it we may procrastinate, perform more poorly or not achieve those things we want in life. So it is entirely normal and while it can cause physiological changes, these should be temporary as your body will return to its normal state.
Stress
Stress occurs when this pressure becomes excessive and it is a natural reaction which is often referred to as our fight, flight and freeze response. It is our reaction to being put under or feeling under pressure.
It is part of evolution and is a design to help protect ourselves from danger. It is present in all animals. When we feel under threat our bodies react by releasing certain hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones mean:
- We feel and are more alert, allowing us to act quickly and more decisively.
- Our heart beats faster, quickly sending blood to where it's needed most.
- We are more likely to escape or deal with dangerous situations.
Usually, after we feel the threat has passed, our bodies release other hormones, which help us to relax and return to our more usual state.
This process is something that happens automatically in our bodies, and we have no control over it. So stress is not an illness but a state. It can become acute when faced with a very challenging situation or where we are significantly outside our comfort zone, such as a job interview, exam or giving a public speech, and again this is normal (and natural).
Usually this will be short lived, following the process above and you will return to your more usual state. However, for some people, this heightened state remains, and can become chronic, with the body not returning to its natural state.
This can lead to both physical and mental symptoms of distress (shaking, behaviour change, anxiety, panic, etc.) and mental and physical illness can also develop.
We often use words like stressed, nervous, anxious to describe how we feel. Most people feel anxious at times and it's particularly common to experience some anxiety while coping with pressure, significant events or changes, especially if they could have an impact on your life and work.
Yet it is important to try and differentiate between what are normal feelings that most people have in dealing with work and home life and the inevitable busy periods and challenges they face and when these become overwhelming or people feel unable to cope.
If you think about your current life and how much pressure and stress you believe you are facing. How much of this do you believe is normal and how well are you are able to manage this?
Give yourself a score of between 1 and 10, where 1 is you are overwhelmed and believe you are unable to cope at all and are finding things very difficult to deal with and 10 is where you are fully in control and able to manage everything that is thrown your way.
This is not designed to be a scientific test but just to raise your awareness of where you are now as you work through the rest article.
Take some time to reflect on events and feelings that could be contributing to your stress (you could do this on your own or with someone you trust). Working these out can help you anticipate problems and think of ways to solve them. Even if you can't avoid these situations, being prepared can help.
Some common stress triggers include.
- Issues that come up regularly, and that you worry about, for example paying a bill, attending an appointment, or having to give a talk.
- One-off events that you are facing or are on your mind a lot, such as a job interview, taking an exam or moving house.
- Ongoing events, like being a carer, the hours you are working, workload or issues you have with your line manager, students or others at work.
You may or may not be surprised by some of your triggers and just how much you are dealing with at once. Not having enough work, activities or change in your life can be just as stressful a situation as having too much. We often simply do not stop to think about them.
Below you can click to open up more information in four areas on the risks and management of stress.
The Health and Safety Executive in their management standards approach to workplace stress identified six primary stressors.
THE 6 MAJOR RISK FACTORS ARE:
- The demands you face (workload, work patterns and working environment).
- Control (how much say you have in the way you do your work).
- The support you receive (the encouragement from leaders and colleagues and the resources to which you have access).
- Your relationships at work (the extent to which positive working practices and behaviours are encouraged and problems dealt with).
- Your role (whether you clearly understand what is expected of you).
- Change (how it’s managed and communicated to you).
In reality it is how you respond and are able to manage these, how your values fit those of the MAT or school culture and how supported you feel by leaders, systems and processes. Below we take a brief look at each of the six risk factors.
The Demands You Face.
You are busy and the demands on you are likely to be significant and can regularly increase through such things as:
- Marking, planning, preparation and data.
- Parent evenings and other extracurricular activities
- Taking on additional work or responsibilities without feeling you have the knowledge or skills or being given the rewards for doing it.
- Responding to students and their parents and being able to meet their needs.
- Finding time for personal training and training or supporting other staff members.
- Poor student/pupil behaviour and disruptions.
- Poor relationships with your line manager, other leaders or colleagues.
- Attending meetings.
- Systems and other school or curriculum changes.
Parts of your job or other situations not mentioned above and that you find more challenging. It is natural and most people do not enjoy or are comfortable with all aspects of their role.
The Control You Have
If you feel you have some say about the way you are able to carry out your work you are likely to feel more in control, and have a lower risk of stress. It isn’t always possible to have control, particularly when there is a need to respond to student / pupil demands and other changes imposed by Government, and when so much of your day is timetabled or you have specific responsibilities. A lack of control might include:
- The curriculum is usually decided (though you may have choices around how you do things).
- Other people, e.g. staff absences, the behaviour of colleagues or student (these can also add to the demands on you).
- Interruptions, and being asked to solve other people’s problems.
- Not being able to choose when to have a break or sometimes even when you can go to the toilet!
- External influences, such as Government and Inspections!
- The way you are asked to carry out much of your work.
- Other tasks and activities you asked to carry out where you are not consulted or given choice in how you do them.
The Support You Receive
Do you have the information you need to do your job effectively and to enjoy it! Do you think your line manager, school leaders and colleagues give you the support you need. Support comes from many areas, Including:
- Your line manager, leaders, colleagues, parents, students and other stakeholders.
- Having information available and knowing where to find it.
- Effective school systems that are easy to understand and use.
- Being clear on what is expected, for example from your marking, where fear of getting it wrong may mean you worry or do too much?
- Feeling you can make comments, constructively challenge leaders or make mistakes, without fear of repercussions.
Your Relationships at Work
How does your school promote positive working practices to avoid conflict and how quickly are steps taken to deal with unacceptable behaviour. There may be times when your relationships with other colleagues are strained or you feel their behaviour towards you (or others) is inappropriate, unacceptable or causing you stress. As well as your personal feelings any of the following might indicate issues with relationships.
- Increases in or a high level of sickness and absence (which of course also adds to the demands you and others face).
- A high level of turnover and/or inexperience in the school.
- People regularly turning up late to meetings, events or places they should be and/or letting colleagues down by missing deadlines or not pulling their weight.
- Changes in behaviour, restlessness, or short-tempered.
- When dealing with specific people you have an emotional response, for example anger, fear or sadness.
Understanding Your Role
How well you understand your role and what is expected of you will help you to reduce any workplace stress and improve your wellbeing. It will also help make sure you perform effectively and you will be more likely to enjoy your work. Things that may get in the way of this include:
- When you are new to a role or given additional responsibility.
- If the role is not explained fully, or you are not given the training or support you need, for example when being appointed to a leadership role, you are expected to learn on the job!
- You have multiple roles, for example, more than one of teaching, form tutor, and head of year / department.
- Following significant changes.
- Conflicting messages or directions from one or more leaders.
Change
How change is managed and communicated to you will affect how you are feeling and the extent to which you are subjected to the state of stress. It is often fear of the unknown, failure, uncertainty or worry about what others think that can make change difficult to cope with in school. This is affected by:
- The impact change will have on your current position and workload, and the extent to which you know this.
- The extent to which the change has been imposed on you, or whether you have been properly consulted and had some say in the outcome.
- The notice you have been given of the change and time made available for you to prepare for and deliver it.
- Whether the change involves structures or other people you know.
- The degree to which you are given information about the proposed changes and at all times during change.
- Whether you have access to your line manager and senior leaders and the opportunity to question them about the change (and the degree to which they respond and you believe them).
In all situations involving workplace and other risks of stress, it is important to remember it is not the actual situation or action that is causing your stress, but your response to it or ability to deal with it.
No one or any situation can make you feel or behave in a particular way - you have choice. This is not to underestimate how challenging situations can be or how difficult it can be dealing with a stressful state. Yet you can learn techniques that will help you build effective habits and improve your wellbeing.
In this section we will specifically look at how you might manage those things at work that are most likely to cause stress. Earlier we shared the six key risks using the Health and Safety Executive's Management Standards.
To build on the solutions offered above for managing stress above, we share specific steps that you can take in managing each of these six stress risks.
The Demands You Face. Where you need to take steps to reduce the demands placed on you, for example the volume of work.
- Make sure what you do is good enough, rather than thinking everything has to be done perfectly.
- There has been much debate about what constitutes good practice for planning, preparation and data collection. Check your school policies and make sure you are not doing anything in excess of them.
- You can also check your school policies against the latest requirements set out by the DfE's workload working parties and Ofsted. If your school is asking you to do more than is needed then politely and assertively ask why. If you are uncomfortable then speak to a line manager or work with a group of colleagues to raise your concerns.
- Identify your best time of day, and do the important tasks that need the most energy and concentration at that time, wherever possible.
- Vary your activities where you can. If you can balance interesting tasks with more mundane ones, and stressful tasks with those you find easier, it allows you natural breaks and a chance to return to your normal state.
- Set smaller and achievable targets. When you’re under a lot of pressure, you may not think correctly and it is easy to take on much more than you can do. This can add to your stress and can make you feel even more disappointed and frustrated. So break things down into smaller chunks and be realistic.
- Work collaboratively and share resources. Lesson planning is an example where activities can be shared for mutual benefits.
The Control You Have. Where you feel you lack control over what or how you do your work or spend your day.
Accept areas that you cannot control, for example the timetable or curriculum. But identify where you can choose, for example, how to do something. Your classroom and how you spend breaks do have a degree of choice involved.
- Ask for involvement or be assertive in setting out how you want to work. Prepare for any conversations and list the benefits for doing it your way.
- Choose how you spend time outside work, and don't allow yourself to work consistently long hours.
- Become better at asking constructive questions and being clear on why things are done in the way they are.
The Support You Receive. Where you don't feel as supported as you would like.
- Make sure you know what information and resources are available to support you in your school – if you are not sure of something then don’t wait to be told or be frightened to speak up.
- Give support to your colleagues and line manager when it is needed. People tend to reciprocate and so the more supportive you are to others, the more support you are likely to receive back.
- Learn to recognise when you need support and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Your line manager and colleagues will want to be there for you. Be aware of any relationships that are not healthy and you might need to work on – don’t ignore this. Remember others may not have the same characteristics and preferences as you and their behaviour may simply be representative of this, rather than any deliberate attempt to hinder or annoy you.
- Be clear on what is expected, for example from your marking, and ask for clarification where needed.
- Practice self-care and look after yourself. Do take the opportunity to change tasks and relax during any breaks or lunch, even if it is for a short period. Drink water and eat as needed to maintain energy levels. It is much easier to feel supported and to support others when you are taken care of first. You must put your oxygen mask on before helping others to put theirs on.
Your Relationships at Work. Where relationships are strained or not working.
- Are there specific people that you have a poor relationship with, or specific actions that cause relationship to breakdown. If so, identify them and either address them with the individual or individuals concerned or learn to accept them. It is likely they are just different to you and / or have different values. Where these are significant or affect a larger number of people they will need to be tackled.
- Ask for support, if you are unsure what to do, either from your line manager or a trusted colleague.
- Reflect honestly and recognise when it may be your behaviour that is causing an issue. Don’t be afraid to ask others for perspective and feedback. Ask what you might do differently to change the situation – remember if you want others to change, it is likely that you will need to change too.
- Ask for training or development that will help, for example in how to hold coaching conversations, or managing difficult people.
Understanding Your Role. Where you are not clear about any aspect of your role or how it fits with the school purpose.
- Speak with your line manager. As preparation you can write out what you believe are the expectations of your role in a simple note for yourself and then ask your line manager for their view.
- Create a detailed personal development plan to address any gaps between your current skills and those you might need to be fully competent in all aspects of your role. The more able you are to tackle what is needed from you, the less likely it is that you will experience workplace stress.
- Look for information and policies that cover areas of concern and speak with your manager and colleagues to really understand the expectations of different stakeholders.
- Managers can ask team members to talk through their role and their responsibilities. This is a great way to check understanding and also involve individuals in a discussion that will help them to take ownership for delivering what is expected of them
Change. It may not be possible to keep you fully informed so here are some things you can do.
- Make sure you are involved in decisions that affect you and if not, then ask to be included. If you lead others then involve them in decisions and communicate early and regularly about any changes that are to be made.
- Delegate or share work effectively, take responsibility for those things that are down to you but pass responsibilities to other members of your team too.
- Where it is known, set out a schedule for any change that involves you and if you are leading change then create a timetable for communications and stick to it. If the change is coming from others, ask them for their timetable. Use these to create a clear plan.
- Ask for updates (or keep people updated if you are leading the change) – it is much better to over rather than under communicate. It stops people making their own assumptions.
There are many risk factors for stress outside the workplace too and you may have identified some of these when reflecting on your triggers in the first lesson that looked at pressure and stress.
In figure 1 below you can see common Stress or Risk factors. We covered the workplace risks in the previous section and this is not an exhaustive list and you can add many others to it - lack of exercise, poor eating, and addictions being three more examples.
Think of it as a 'Stress Bucket'. As things happen they begin to fill up your bucket, and it is why having an awareness about what might be causing your stress levels to rise is so important.
It may not be the final thing that goes in that causes you to get angry or develop a more chronic state of stress, but a cumulation of things and the major cause may be hidden.

Figure 1 - Stress or risk factors
But it isn't just about the risks you face, it is also about your ability to cope with them and your vulnerability factors.
You can think of these as the size and strength of your bucket! You may be someone who has great resilience and can cope with the challenges thrown at you or you may easily succumb to the risks and be constantly worrying, anxious or feeling high levels of stress. Bucket size and strength varies, as you can see in figure 2, and this is also one of the challenges in working with or leading others, as we often assume people respond or react in similar ways to ourselves.
The good news is that you can take steps that will help grow and reinforce your bucket so as it fills you are better able to manage everything within it.

Figure 2 - Vulnerability and ability to cope
Finally you can also find ways to remove or release things from within your bucket by learning coping and other strategies. This is like putting a hole in it
Learning techniques or using tools that help you to deal with your risk factors and strengthening your vulnerability factors will allow you to more effectively deal with any challenges you face. Below we focus on one stress management tool – from the Mayo clinic and after this look at how you might address specific issues that may cause workplace stress.
Before moving to this and starting to explore how you might more effectively deal with situations or circumstances that create stress in your life, spend some time reflecting on your Vulnerability Factors and any coping strategies you already have.
How big and strong is your bucket on a 1 - 10 scale (with 10 being big and strong), and how aware of this are you?
How consciously do you manage risks and take action to reduce stress and return to your normal state? You can make notes and record your thoughts and then move on.
The Mayo model identifies four main strategies for reducing and removing the risks of stress. These are to:
- Avoid the Stressor
- Change the Stressor
- Adapt to the Stressor
- Accept the Stressor
When looking through each of the four strategies you can refer back to the triggers you may have identified earlier and work through them and ask yourself the following question.
"What can I do to change my thinking, feelings or reactions to the stressor." Don't justify what is possible and simply come up with ideas.
Once you have completed this you can look at some of the actions you could take below - you can apply them to your triggers.
Without clarity of what it is you will work on and without time set aside to reflect on progress, you are unlikely to make successful changes.
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Avoid the Stressor

This means finding a way to eliminate the stressor from your life. While this isn't always easy to do, you may be surprised with the changes you are able to make
Refer back to the stress triggers you, may have identified earlier and work through each of these and ask yourself the following question.
"What can I do to avoid or remove it from my life." Don't justify what is possible and simply come up with ideas. Take notes and record your answers. Once you have completed this, look below at some of the actions you could take - these are generic and you can apply them to your triggers.
Tips to avoid your stressors
Learn to say no
Know your limits and stIck to them. While in peak times there is more to do, be aware of when you are under too much pressure and in a state of stress. What can and will you stop doing?
You may think taking on more than you can handle will help in the short-term, but it will mean you are not able to give your best over longer periods. When taking on more things it is also highly likely that you will suffer from decreasing quality of work. If you find it difficult to say no to others, including your line manager, you could say, "Which of my other tasks would you be happy for me not to do?"
Take control of your environment
If there are specific jobs or activities that you find more challenging, can you negotiate with your line manager or other colleagues to swap them. taking on tasks that you are more comfortable with?
You could also look to do them differently, for example collaborating with others or sharing out so everyone does a part of a task.
Avoid hot-button topics
If you repeatedly argue about the same subject or with the same people, stop bringing it up or excuse yourself when it’s the topic of discussion.
Prioritise
Remove things from your daily to-do list by being clear about what is really important and learn to plan more effectively. Simple advice that we all know, and yet many people fail to prioritise and treat too many things as important.
Avoid distractions and interruptions
Evidence shows the impact of interruptions and distractions. One study showed that each of these can add 11 minutes to a task. So plan ‘availability time’ rather than always having to be available to make sure you can get important tasks done (for example those outside the classroom for teachers).
Avoid working excessive hours
Taking work home, working evenings and weekends is seen as normal and needed by many staff in schools. It may be needed when reports have to be written, but if you make this a regular habit, it will have an impact on your life and ability to manage pressure and stress. The easiest way to avoid this is to choose the hours you will work and then make your work fit it - it will force you to prioritise, do less and work smarter. If you don’t do this then work tends to stretch to fill the time you allow it and you may work unproductively due to tiredness or multi-tasking.
This is not an exhaustive list and you will have identified other specific activities, tasks and situations that you can avoid.
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Change the Stressor

If you can’t avoid the stressor, try to alter it. Figure out what you can do to change things so the problem doesn’t present itself in the same way in the future. This might involve changing the way you communicate and operate in your daily life.
Refer back to the triggers you identified in the first lesson again and any that you weren't able to avoid in the first exercise you undertook above. Work through each of these and ask yourself the following question, "What can I do to change the stressor."
Don't justify what is possible and simply come up with ideas. Once you have completed this, look below at some of the actions you could take - these are generic and you can apply them to your triggers.
Tips to change your stressors
Express your feelings instead of bottling them up
If something or someone is bothering you, communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way. Focus on the behaviour and not the person or the situation and set out clearly what you would like to happen.
Be willing to compromise
If you ask someone to change their behaviour be willing to do the same. And if you ask for changes to a situation be prepared to listen and compromise. You may have to give and take and it is about creating win/win opportunities.
Be more assertive
Don’t take a backseat at work or in your own life. Deal with problems head on, do your best to anticipate and prevent them and speak out when needed. This means asking for help, as well as being clear with people whose behaviour steps across your values.
Plan ahead
Poor personal management and planning can make you less able to face challenges. Being able to think clearly when you are under pressure or when you’re stretched too thin and running behind is important. Without preparation, it’s much harder to stay calm and focused.
This is not an exhaustive list and you will have identified other ways you can make changes to your stressors.
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Adapt to the Stressor

If you can’t avoid or change the stressor, you can change yourself. You can adapt to pressure and stressful situations and regain your sense of control by changing your expectations, thinking and attitude.
Tips to adapt to your stressors
Reframe problems
As an example, rather than fuming about being given a different job, see it as an opportunity for more responsibility, variety or to recharge. When you are asked to do something extra, use it as a negotiating position to remove something else.
Look at the big picture
Ask yourself how important it will be to you in the long-term? Will it matter in a month? A year? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy elsewhere. You can also ask "What's the worst that can happen?"
Adjust your standards
Perfectionism is a major source of avoidable stress, and is a typical behaviour of many school staff. Usually “good enough” is good enough! And done consistently, it usually delivers outstanding.
Focus on the positives
Reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life, including your own positive qualities and help keep things in perspective. In addition think about what you have completed today, not what hasn't been done, what you have done well, rather than what has gone wrong.
This is not an exhaustive list and you will have identified other ways you can adapt to your stressors.
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Accept the Stressor

If you are unable to avoid or change your relationship with the stressor, then can you learn to live with and accept it?
Tips to accept your stressors
Focus only on the things you can control
Recognise when you worry about things you can’t control and the emotional impact it has on you. While it seems obvious to ignore things that are outside your control, it is not always easy to do this. Were any of your triggers things that you can do nothing about?
Once you have listed things you cannot control, tell yourself that you can do nothing and move your thinking to take action in areas that you can control. If you keep doing this, with practise you will notice a change.
Look for the upside
When facing major challenges, try to see them as opportunities for personal growth. If decisions you make contribute to stressful situations, reflect on them and learn from your mistakes.
Share your feelings
When you recognise that you are not dealing with something well, talk to a trusted colleague or friend (or you might make an appointment with a specialist). This can be cathartic, as well as help identify solutions, even if you can’t alter the stressful event.
Learn to forgive
Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes and that often what you perceive isn’t the intent of the other person / people involved. Learn to let go of anger and resentment and move on. Remember that the world is not a fair place and goalposts always move. If you can adopt this as your mindset, you will also find it much easier to deal with challenging events.
Be grateful for what you have
Living in a developed country and with a job in education puts you very high up in terms of safety and wealth compared to the majority of the world's population. It may not feel like it sometimes, but maintaining an awareness of this and keeping it front of mind during stressful events, will help you to deal with them.
Show kindness or support to others
Another way of helping yourself is to offer others kindness and the support that you might feel you need. There is evidence to show this can lead to personal improvements, and it can also lead to reciprocation.
This is not an exhaustive list and you will have identified other ways you can accept your stressors.
While it may not be easy, only you can take responsibility for managing your challenges. By following the suggestions for managing workplace and personal stress you can take significant steps to improve how you are able to identify and manage your stressors. You can also follow the tip on creating more positive self-talk here.
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